266: The Practice of Self-Responsibility (The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem Part 3)

Wes Bertrand and I continue our series based on Nathaniel Branden's book, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. Today's show includes a discussion based on the second pillar, the Practice of Self-Responsibility.Reacting vs. Responding“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” -Viktor E. Frankl -live consciously : within ourselves and observing and identifying WHAT EXISTS our surroundings-self-acceptance : a non-adversarial relationship with realityTHE PRACTICE OF SELF-RESPONSIBILITY“I am responsible for my choices and actions. To be ‘responsible’ in this context means responsible not as the recipient of moral blame or guilt, but responsible as the chief causal agent in my life and behavior.”I AM RESPONSIBLE...-for the achievement of my desires -for choices /actions-level of consciousness I bring to my work , relationships-for my behavior with other people-how I prioritize my time-for my personal happiness-choosing the values by which I live-SERENITY-Gratitudein things that are not external-how we overcame adversity -David Ortiz and his doubles-Honoring our gifts-Jeopardizing self-esteem byholding myself responsible for things beyond my control or denying it for things within my controlTHE SIX PILLARS OF SELF-ESTEEM1. The Practice of Living Consciously2. The Practice of Self-Acceptance3. The Practice of Self-Responsibility4. The Practice of Self-Assertiveness5. The Practice of Living Purposefully6. The Practice of Personal IntegrityQuestions to answer in this series:what is self-esteem?why is it important?what can we do to raise self-esteem?what role do others play in our self-esteem?The steps we'll try to follow for each pillar:-identify and define-what are the obstacles-personal stories, struggles-how to overcome themBumper Music:"Gold Dust Woman" Fleetwood Mac"The Reflex" Duran Duran "Complicated Shadows" Elvis CostelloLook Closer:Complete Liberty Podcasthttp://completeliberty.com/NathanielBranden.comhttp://www.nathanielbranden.com/An Introduction to Nonviolent Communicationhttp://happinesscounseling.com/NVC_Intro.pdfHappiness Counseling Resource Pagehttp://happinesscounseling.com/happiness-resources/The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem (pdf)http://experiencelife.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/11/70-the-six-pillars…