276: Nurturing A Child's Self-Esteem (The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem Part 7)

Wes Bertrand and I continue our series based on Nathaniel Branden's book, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. Today we move into the second part of the book."Regardless of what we think we are teaching, we teach what we are."Discussed:-everything going on inside me is weird and alien to the rest of the world-we have this natural desire to be seen, heard, understood-what would happen if we extended the courtesy we have for adults to children-Understanding the need or the fear behind scolding?-When we convey love, appreciation, acceptance, respect and empathywe make the child visible-When we convey Indifference, ridicule, condemnation and scorndrive child into "lonely underground of invisibility"-Inappropriate Praise-evaluative praise vs appreciative praise-state the facts and leave the evaluation to the child-Don't create "approval addicts"-A child needs sanity for healthy development -parents who can acknowledge that they make mistakes-embed values into family life, don't just preach themTHE SIX PILLARS OF SELF-ESTEEM1. The Practice of Living Consciously2. The Practice of Self-Acceptance3. The Practice of Self-Responsibility4. The Practice of Self-Assertiveness5. The Practice of Living Purposefully6. The Practice of Personal IntegrityBumper Music:The Who - "When I Was A Boy"Weezer - "In the Garage" Look Closer:Complete Liberty Podcasthttp://completeliberty.com/NathanielBranden.comhttp://www.nathanielbranden.com/An Introduction to Nonviolent Communicationhttp://happinesscounseling.com/NVC_Intro.pdfHappiness Counseling Resource Pagehttp://happinesscounseling.com/happiness-resources/The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem (pdf)http://experiencelife.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/11/70-the-six-pillars…