How Complaining Makes Us More Miserable, Ineffectual, and Insecure

The Harvard Business Review reports, “a majority of employees spend 10 or more hours per month complaining—or listening to others complain—about their bosses or upper management. Even more amazing, almost a third spend 20 hours or more per month doing so.”
Only voiced complaints were measured and reported in the study. Add unspoken complaints and it is easy to see there is a lot mental churning and self-inflicted emotional disruption in our lives.
Those who complain about their managers probably also complain about their peers and their employees. They may complain about their spouse and children, the weather, traffic, the service at the restaurant, the economy, or the president.
Complaining can become a state of mind, directing our orientation towards life. Comedian Lily Tomlin once quipped, “Man invented language to satisfy his deep need to complain.”

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